Law v. Life

Opinions on everything except the law.

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  • A Little Girl’s Large Life
  • Alaskablawg
  • Amicus Curiae
  • Anonymous Lawyer
  • Artsy Fartsy Shopaholic
  • Begging The Question
  • Blonde Justice
  • Bogart in P Towne
  • Crayon
  • De Novo
  • Effing Reality
  • Evan Schaeffer's Legal Underground
  • Fannie's Room
  • financial zen
  • Frolics and Detours
  • Go Fug Yourself
  • If It Was That Simple
  • IrishLaw
  • Jeremy Blachman's Brand New Weblog
  • KU-Law School: A casual approach
  • Lag Liv
  • Laughing Through My Chardonnay
  • Law With Grace
  • Lawyerish
  • Not Guilty
  • OSJCL Amici: Views from the Field
  • Public Defender Dude
  • Random Ramblings About Life and Law School
  • Res Ipsa Eloquent
  • Screaming Bean
  • Selah Breath (OLS)
  • sequins and glitter
  • Starting Over at 24
  • Stay
  • teahouseblossom
  • The Clumsy Chatterbox
  • The Gancer
  • the imbroglio
  • This Fish Needs a Bicycle
  • Uncivil Litigator
  • Will Work for Favorable Dicta
  • Work Hard, Play Hard
  • xoxoANP!

OSU Law Prof Blogs

  • ADR Prof Blog
  • Business Law Prof Blog
  • Election Law @ Moritz - Free & Fair
  • Equal Vote Blog
  • Law School Innovation
  • Peter Swire
  • Sentencing Law & Policy
  • The Utube blog 2.0

Other Very Important Links

  • ABA Section of Litigation
  • ABA Young Lawyers Division
  • American Bar Association
  • Cleveland Indians
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  • Columbus Clippers
  • Innocence Project
  • Justice Project
  • Moritz College of Law
  • Ohio State Bar Association
  • Ohio State Journal of Criminal Law
  • Supreme Court of Ohio

Tongue tied

I know I'm a slacker.  But I'm really not.  There are a million things I want to write, but I can't.  I can't write about work at the moment, but hope to be able to soon.  I am in love (yay!), but I don't want to go into too many details for obvious reasons.  My church and bar activities are more fulfilling every day, but I'm currently trying to be more discreet on here, so, again, I don't want to go into too many details at the moment. 

What else can I say?  We have a new president!  Hurray!  Baseball season is on its way!  HURRAY!  Oh wait, I should definitely be more exited about the first one. 

Did I mention I'm in love?  So all is good, or at least that makes up for a lot of other stuff.

Jan 25, 2009 in Life, Love, Work | Permalink | Comments (6) | TrackBack (0)

Snow is on the ground

I am on my way to say goodbye to the guy.  I've already broken up with him, but this is our "goodbye date."  It is going to be heartbreaking, but I know I made the right decision, and I also know that I want to see him one last time.  I'm sad.

I haven't posted in over a month, and it was getting sporadic before that.  I worked an insane amount and then I got very, very sick.  I fell in love and then discovered we were simply not going to be compatible long term.  I watched one friend get married, another leave the country for a year, and another learn of a horrible illness in the family.  Baseball season ended, and I watched more college football than I have in my entire life combined.  Things I thought I could count on have been a little turned upside down recently, I guess.

It has been a very challenging few months, but I know I have many wonderful friends and the strength of God.  I'm hopeful that the first Sunday of Advent will begin a season of joy in my life tomorrow.

Nov 29, 2008 in Life, Love, Religion, Work | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack (0)

Best. Week. Ever.

The past week has been the most perfect confluence of law and life joy.  How often does that happen?  I feel so alive.

The high has not worn off yet from the new guy.  Let's call him Jack.  I am breathing more easily, but barely, and I still feel off balance when I think about how it feels to be with him.  I can't believe it can feel so good and safe to feel completely out of control and unlike myself.  Fortunately he appears to be as completely awestruck as I am.  We'll see where we stand after I go out of town for 5 days this week.  I'm guessing it will only serve to encourage our ridiculous "I'm going to miss you" conversations since we will actually be thousands of miles apart rather than simply ending a date with another one already planned.

To add to the adrenaline pumping through my system the last week has been a very exciting new case.  We actually met with our clients the day of my first date with Jack and the evolution of the case has continued at the same breakneck speed.  I won't go into more detail about the case, but it is exactly what I needed to remind me how much I love being a lawyer...writing impassioned pleadings late at night, scheduling emergency court conferences, strategizing with the other litigators...using my mind analytically and creatively to advocate for a client is close to the most fun I can have fully clothed.

Aside from not wanting to miss a single day that I could be getting to know Jack better, I am also really looking forward to going to San Diego this week.  The programming looks good, I'm wearing a gold dress to the dinner dance, I will get to see lots of friends, and I think my cousin is going to come down for a day.  Looks like it should be another great conference..  If you happen to live in San Diego, I would welcome restaurant suggestions or other ideas of things to do there. 

Sep 28, 2008 in ABA, Law, Life, Love, Travel, Work | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack (0)

Ready for a break

Not that I really know what I'm talking about, but I think that to be successful as a young lawyer it is important to not just do good work, but to be engaged in the direction of your own career and the future of your firm.  I like where I work and envision myself working there pretty much forever unless all the other attorneys leave or some man whisks me away or something else crazy happens.  So because my future and the firm's future are intertwined, I feel an obligation and passion to work hard to create the future I want.  So that's all good and everything, right?


But...  I might want to use a bullhorn to declare that the future is now, and not everyone is quite ready for that.  And that can lead to a lot of frustration on my part.  And it can lead to a lot of wasted time and energy.  I don't know how to balance it all, and right now it feels impossible to ever do so.  It is surprising to experience so many strong and overwhelming emotions about marketing.  Really, that's ridiculous and I know it.

So let me know if you've figured out how to give 100% and not care at the same time.  Please.

Aug 06, 2008 in Work | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

This is what I live for

Oh my God, being in trial is exhausting, but fun.

One of my trial lawyer heroes, David Berg, inscribed a book for me, in part, "Just be ready to announce, "Ready" when the wimps are whispering, "settle."  I don't think he could have offered better advice.  More than once I have told a judge I was "Ready for trial," and it has immediately led to settlement or an unopposed trial and judgment in my client's favor.  As well as the really enjoyable look of shock and confusion on opposing counsel's face.

I've only been practicing 2 1/2 years, but, from what I have seen so far, it is a small minority of attorneys who call themselves "litigators" who actually want to go to trial.  I have many theories as to why that is: billing practices, training and experience, and wussiness, just to mention a few.

To some extent, I think the culture of billing, including the pressure to bill lots of hours at obscenely high rates, especially at big firms, makes it too easy to make a living off of pretrial practice, leading so-called litigators to  define their job as something other than being a trial lawyer...maybe being a "discovery and motion practice lawyer who is adequate/good at negotiating/forcing settlements."  I also think that the other side of exorbitant billing makes it too risky for a client to let a jury decide all or nothing, and as legal fees mount, often because the other side intentionally drives them up through delay tactics and frivolous motions, clients have to make the prudent decision to settle for far less than their case is "worth," because that worth will soon be eclipsed by legal fees which are generally non-recoverable.  I'm sure I could  think of tons of other ways to tie billing to the decline of the trial lawyer, but that's enough for now.

Another reason that I suspect many litigators rarely set foot in a courtroom is because they simply don't feel comfortable there.  The overall law school curriculum does not focus on trial practice.  That doesn't mean I would change the curriculum, because I think much of it is valuable as currently designed, and in the last decade (?) or so, I think there has been a dramatic shift towards offering practical classes.  I had every opportunity to take practical classes at OSU, and I took advantage of those opportunities.  Not everyone did.  But they were there, in abundance.  I think it's fine that they are not required, because as much as I loved them and would have hated taking a semester-long class on commercial paper, the opposite is true as well, and I am grateful that law school allows students to take those courses they are interested in, as well as certain core requirements.  BUT, if a law student thinks he or she may want to be a litigator, it is the student's responsibility to realize a little instruction might be beneficial.  Some schools may not offer the comprehensive practical curriculum that OSU does, but there are endless opportunities after law school to seek out such instruction as well.  Litigation CLEs are actually fun!

In addition to "training," nothing can take the place of real life experience to feel comfortable in the courtroom.  Crazy, but true.  At big firms, I know many people who a year or two into practice were just beginning to defend depositions.  That is about as far from the courtroom as a litigator can get.  But opportunities exist if you seek them out, even in big firms.  Someone covers JD exams or motion hearings in remote counties or sits 18th chair behind the firm's few real litigators, so volunteer to be that person.  Surprisingly, most people don't want to do those things so a little initiative might turn into a lot of court time. 

What always shocks me is that a large percentage of the attorneys I meet at more mundane court appearances act like it is painful to be there and they just want to "resolve" the case as soon as possible and get back to their nice, safe offices.  Look around...it's not scary!  And your discomfort shows.  If you want to set a third pretrial, that does not facilitate settlement.  Really.  Setting a trial date does.  Or it facilitates allowing a judge or jury to decide the case on the merits in a timely manner.  Either way - resolved!

Wussiness speaks for itself.  We're all afraid of losing.  Our clients are counting on us, and nothing is a sure thing.  And when you're standing up in court, maybe you're afraid of forgetting something important or maybe you're afraid the judge is going to exclude your most important evidence or maybe you're afraid the jury doesn't like your tie.  Get over it or go write wills (no offense intended to those kind of lawyers; they don't pretend to probate lawyers and then go serving a bunch of discovery on dead people...).  If you have honestly evaluated the case throughout the process, discussed the risks along the way with your client, and prepared with the idea that trial may be the way the case is ultimately resolved, without the right settlement offer you should end up in court.

I'm not saying don't settle.  I agree with the common wisdom that most cases should settle.  But unless the economics and the law converge to make settlement the best option, there is no reason to run away from trial.  Maybe if more cases went to trial, there would also be more good faith settlement offers.

Okay, I should really stop babbling, because I have to get ready for another day of trial!

Apr 30, 2008 in Law, Work | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

What is the appropriate response...

when a partner tells you that you should really try a dating service?

Seriously.

Apr 13, 2008 in Love, Work | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

I need to be a little more rigid

Do you ever feel like you need to get your life under control? Or, maybe, always feel that way? I often find myself thinking that if I just lived on a more rigid schedule I could accomplish so much more (including having more time for myself). Yes, as rigid as I am in some ways, I do not live by a rigid schedule at all. Except to the extent dictated by the courts and television.

I know lots of people who make new year's resolutions or give something up for Lent or otherwise try to make changes in their lives by deciding to get up an hour earlier to go to the gym or take a half hour lunch break to read the Bible or implement a timer system to bill a particular amount of time each day on various matters. I do a decent job making those type of changes in my life in a general sense, but I have never been able to institute a rigid schedule for myself to help facilitate those changes on a daily basis. But I feel like that is the necessary next step at this point in my life.

I am so overcommitted that I don't think there is any other way. I've heard women speak at seminars about their crazy schedules, but they never sound crazed because they have their lives so scheduled. My problem is I can come up with all the schedules in the world, but in the past I have always found it impossible to follow them. A big part of the challenge has always been that I am exhausted all the time because of physiological issues (regardless of how busy I am or how much stress I am under), which makes it really hard to make changes that require getting up early and staying focused all day. Now that I am pretty well medicated, my sleep issues are interfering much less, so maybe now I'm ready.

Does anyone have any tips about how to stick to a schedule? Anything that has worked for you? I am specifically interested in anything that has helped you routinely wake up very early or any tips related to billing (i.e., spending two hours on a motion and not answering any emails or phone calls, devoting half an hour per day to returning phone calls, logs for hours, etc.). I am also interested in how you work eating into your schedule. Or, do you have any suggestions for how to feel like life is more under control other than scheduling?

Mar 17, 2008 in Life, Work | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Living in the moment

I'm in a good mood.

As usual, I have a ridiculous amount of work to do and other obligations with pressing deadlines, but I feel pretty good at the moment that things are kind of under control.  As I begin to think about my calendar for the next eight weeks, it is insane, but I am pretty excited about all of the things that are going to make it insane.  And May isn't booked yet, so I should get some rest then.  I'm so busy that I have to just enjoy life as it happens, and right now that philosophy is working out pretty well.

I had a good first date on Saturday.  I have no idea if anything will come of it, but I think it is pretty cool that we had our first date in the middle of a blizzard.  It didn't make me forget about the other situation (which I am pleased to say is at least not as awkward as I feared) which I am definitely not over, but it is always good to be reminded that there are people I can enjoy talking to who could have dating potential.  It was a good lunch.

My case from hell was resolved yesterday in a way that is a great result for my client, and it reinforced for me how important it is to be prepared to actually go to trial and to not let myself be intimidated no matter how hard another lawyer may try.  It was one of those times when I felt like a real lawyer, and like the kind of lawyer I want to be: prepared, assertive, professional, and happiest in the courtroom.

I had a really fun time hanging out with my new ABA friend in Cleveland last night.  Operating on two hours of sleep and not enough food, I probably shared more scandalous stories than I should have, but she is one of those people who has the same kind of stories I do, so it just felt natural.

And I'm looking forward to a good remainder of the week.

Mar 11, 2008 in Law, Life, Love, Work | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

I need a personal assistant

Right now I should be writing a jurisdictional brief, so it is obviously a good time to post instead.  The last week has been one of the busiest I can remember with a ridiculous number of different obligations, and this pace is going to be continuing for the foreseeable future.  It exhausts me just thinking about it.  Like I always say, at least I am busy with things I enjoy...

Cool things I have coming up, just in the next week, include:
My first TRO hearing
A fundraiser that I somehow ended up planning completely on my own
PC's bridal shower :)
Hanging out with one of my new YLD friends when she is in Columbus for work
Our annual attorney party

In the next few weeks...
Firm marketing meeting where I get to talk about things like marketing plans and elevator speeches
Presentation at church about institutional choices relating to sustainability
8th trial date for a very contentious case
Seder service at church that I am preparing and leading
Possible trial as lead counsel on a case I learned about yesterday

And once I make it to April, things will get really busy!

Okay, I guess I should get to work on that brief now.

Feb 23, 2008 in Life, Work | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

I need a break

I figure I have to post something new, because I can't leave a post about some religious guy drowning at the top for too long. 

Hmmm....  I can't believe Heath Ledger's dead.  Crazy.  He was cute and talented, and it's sad he left his little girl without a dad.  Okay, I guess that's enough random commentary on pop culture.

I'm a little overwhelmed by all the work I have to do in the next 10 days before I leave town.  Meeting with an expert, a trial I'm going to lose, an important motion for summary judgment, some discovery, several judgment entries, two amended complaints, a visit to a client's house, working out a couple of settlements, following up on a million emergencies, and all the other things I can't even remember.  This weekend I'm going to Cleveland on Friday, and then hosting OLS's 30th birthday party on Saturday.  Then next weekend is our church's women's retreat Friday-Saturday, and then Sunday I leave for LA for the ABA Mid-Year Conference and to visit my cousin and her fiance.   

I am looking forward to everything that's coming up, but it always feels like I can't quite do everything that I'm supposed to...  I can't wait to hang out with my cousin in LA, and to stay at the fancy conference hotel.  (That is my favorite part of going to conferences).  The women's retreat should also be a really good time.  The theme is "be still," and I could definitely use 24 hours of stillness.

Also, I think this weekend may be pivotal in the current guy situation.  I feel like it has to be, but I also know that if I have to continue to be patient, I will be if I think that it will be worth it.  Still, I want to figure out where I stand and hopefully move forward  before I lose the courage to be vulnerable and optimistic.

My brain hurts.

Jan 22, 2008 in Life, Love, Travel, Work | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

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