If you are a woman, do you have a preference about seeing a male or female gynecologist? If you are a man, do you have strong feelings about the gender of the gynecologist your wife or girlfriend sees?
I'm working through this issue with my boyfriend and I have been surprised to find that he is not alone in being extremely uncomfortable with the idea of me (potentially) being examined by a male doctor. I am torn between my desire to make him comfortable with the situation, particularly since I don't really have a strong preference and because it is something that does affect both of us, and my indignation that he thinks his insecurity and prejudices should play a role in my health care choices. Has anyone else dealt with this?
For me, woman all the way. Cal probably wouldn't care if a linebacker did mine. I care. I think women are more gentle. And, well, according to my chart, I need gentle.
Posted by: Kells Bells | Feb 18, 2009 at 03:36 PM
Maybe because I grew up the son of a doctor, but to me it really does not matter.
When you have your feet in stirrups, a hoo-haw is just a hoo-haw...unless you are totally into that and I will try not to judge you.
Posted by: Bogart | Feb 20, 2009 at 09:03 AM
I infinitely prefer a female doctor, but I'd be mighty tempted to get a male one just to show my boyfriend his squeamishness would never be allowed to interfere with my very personal health issues.
Posted by: resipsacrap | Mar 03, 2009 at 01:52 AM
How would your boyfriend feel if a hot dyke were examining your twat?
Posted by: ash | Apr 09, 2009 at 06:29 PM
infinitely prefer a female doctor, but I'd be mighty tempted to get a male one just to show
Posted by: 我爱皮肤 | Jun 01, 2009 at 03:52 AM
Being a man I do not have strong feelings on the gender of my female significant other's gynecologist. I also do not travel in the same social circle as her OBGYN and am not sure this wouldn't make a difference. I am not uncomfortable at the moment when we meet/greet him, but then again he is not a young, handsome competitor of mine for her attention. He is in fact a highly trained professional being paid for his knowledge and practice to ensure she is safely monitored. I would think such a doctor would be a very personal choice and although not female, I value my FSO's assessment for her. Above all, I would opine it to be very important that you have confidence and trust in a medical examiner to have/know the skills that would be important for your health. That being said, it falls to me, secondarily, to be supportive of her choice. This would be in "the best interest of her well being" above my feelings of insecuriity or inadequacy within our relationship. So, her safety and health first. My support second, and our relationship thereafter. With that being said, it is just my opinion after all. Some might believe that if the relationship is well established first, then the rest will fall in place. Well, possibly, but if that were the case then there would not be an issue for some males on the OBGYN's gender. Thank you for the opportunity to express my view.
Posted by: Sheepdog1 | Jul 27, 2009 at 02:55 PM